If you feel like you can't keep up
have difficulty juggling everything on your plate or feel out of control, you probably need new, healthy boundaries. Many people think boundaries are hard to hold, but I believe life is easier and more enjoyable with healthy boundaries. While there are many, here are the top benefits of holding better boundaries.
Creates balance and diminishes overwhelm.
Sometimes feeling overwhelmed is the result of having too many demands on your time and energy, yet other times it’s because we’ve absorbed other people’s responsibilities or problems.
When life feels chaotic, setting way of caring for yourself by protecting your limits helps immeasurably. Boundary management becomes more important than time management. Because you’ll free up your precious time and use it more wisely. You’ll learn to focus only on the essentials those activities that makes you more productive therefore less frenzied.
Without boundaries its easy to assume too many projects, extend help to those who might not want or appreciate it, and even enable others by doing things they can reasonably do for themselves. Typically, people have difficulty setting boundaries, because they are concerned about being criticized, rejection or making others upset.
Beware of becoming a people-pleaser who’s more concerned about what serves others than what’s right for yourself. Of course, it’s important to consider the feelings of others, but people-pleasing fosters self-neglect and resentment, which in turn makes it hard to deal with our own commitments.
Without setting boundaries, people take on more than can realistically be done and end up with a huge list of sobering obligations, few of which bring them joy. This happens equally in personal and professional lives. Naturally, you feel frenzied, stressed out and depleted.
Creating boundaries means you give only what, when, and to whom, you want – this translates to being generous to more of the right people over a longer period of time. We have both a right and a duty to protect ourselves with healthy boundaries!
Saying "no" is an essential part of self-care
Regular self-care makes a huge impact on our mood and energy and ensures we’re taking care of our own needs. Saying no to someone else means you’re saying yes to yourself, your family, your priorities and your overall health and wellness – including your peace of mind! Saying no when necessary is the healthiest way of caring for yourself by protecting your physical, mental and emotional health. It’s easier to say no when you’re at your best physically and emotionally.
The next time someone asks for your help or you’re tempted to volunteer, I encourage you to pause, discern if it serves you, your family and your overall goals and values. Remember, depleting yourself serves no one – you can’t give from an empty cup.
It may feel uncomfortable at first but listen when your intuition says so. Try something like: “Gosh, I’d like to, but it wouldn’t be fair to you if I took on something that I cant give appropriate attention to They’ll respect your honesty. Boundaries are healthy, normal, necessary, rejected or appreciate it, and even respectable and lead to more joy and ease!
About the Author
Linda Mitchell, a Professional Transformational Coach, is the founder of Linda Mitchell Coaching and Healing. She has been coaching and practicing in the healing arts for over 20 years, operating from a deep desire to empower people to move through life’s many challenges and transitions with ease and grace. Her unique “Reinvention Program” helps people reclaim balance, and better health and gain clarity on their next steps in order to define, create and truly live the life they desire.